How do we build up enough of a reserve of love to hold on when the relationship is tested?

Store up kindness in the relationship in good times so there is a 'reserve' of love to draw on in hard times. Every kindness, compliment and apology adds to that reserve, while every hurt and neglect reduces it. In calm times, invest with attention and appreciation, so that when conflict comes, the love that has built up can absorb the strain. Avoid draining the reserve with harsh words that are hard to forget. Repair quickly after a mistake so the balance of love does not shrink. Start today with one kind act that was not asked for. A relationship rich in kindness stands up better to testing. See communication & emotions.

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