🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #38

Can one be happy marrying without love?

Yes; many couples build love after marrying, because affection in a marriage is made by Allah, not merely brought along from the start.
Allah says that He placed between husband and wife mawaddah (affection) and rahmah (mercy) (ar-Rum 30:21). But there must be a foundation: sincere consent without coercion, respect, no feelings of hatred or revulsion, and compatible values. Islam encourages seeing a prospective spouse so that attraction can arise. Lasting love is built through kind treatment, communication, patience and worship together. Conversely, blind love that does not weigh religion and character can fade quickly.

Sources

Surah ar-Rum 30:21Sahih al-Bukhari 5136Surah an-Nisa' 4:19

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