⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #129

How do I make sure the children of all my wives are treated fairly?

A father's justice covers the children of all his wives — in maintenance, education, love and attention. Children do not choose the family they are born into, so it is unfair if the children of one home are pampered while the others are neglected. Avoid using the children to carry messages or spy on the other home. Spend time with each child and celebrate their achievements without comparing them. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Be conscious of Allah and act justly among your children” (Sahih al-Bukhari 2587). Fairness towards children plants a love that unites the large family. See household system.

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Sahih al-Bukhari 2587

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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