Should I communicate directly with my co-wife, or is it better for everything to go through our husband?

There is no single right way for everyone; choose the channel that best reduces misunderstanding for your family. Some co-wives are comfortable communicating directly about the children and schedules, while others are calmer if everything goes through the husband. Discuss and agree on a way both sides are comfortable with, and limit conversations to necessary matters. Whatever the channel, keep good manners and avoid collecting evidence to argue with later. If direct contact keeps causing hurt, fall back on going through your husband without feeling guilty. Comfort and peace matter more than formality. See co-wife relations.