🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #320

I am not good at cooking or running a home. How do I learn without feeling inferior as a newly married spouse?

No one is born skilled at running a home; it is a skill that is learned, and the first year is a fitting time to learn it. Do not be ashamed of this shortcoming, and do not let pride stop you from asking or trying. Start with a few simple recipes and one short tidying routine, then add to them little by little. Learn from your mother, your mother-in-law or a trusted guide, and ask your spouse to be patient and to help as well. Make it a shared journey, not a test for one person. A spouse who appreciates effort rather than demanding perfection makes this process easier. Every new skill adds to your confidence. See course for wives.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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