🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #343

After losing my wife, I am clumsy at running the house and cooking. How do I learn to manage?

Household skills can be learned by anyone; being clumsy at first is no excuse to depend entirely on others. Start with a few simple, nutritious recipes you can repeat, and cook in bulk to save time. Draw up a simple schedule for laundry, cleaning and shopping so that the house does not fall into chaos. Involve older children with age-appropriate tasks while teaching them independence. Accept help from family in the early stages without embarrassment while you learn. Every skill you master becomes an example of self-reliance for your children. See single-parent families.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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