💍 Khitbah & engagement · #103

Does the bride's side need to return gift trays (dulang), and how many?

Returning gift trays is a good custom, but it is not obligatory and does not have to match the man's side. In some places, the bride's side returns more trays as a mark of respect. But that is custom, not a ruling. If the cost becomes a burden, discuss with the man's side reducing the trays on both sides. The contents can also be useful things, such as a prayer mat, religious books or household items, not things that end up stored in a cupboard. Agreed simplicity brings more peace than forced extravagance. See when two families have different customs.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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