My child is disappointed that his father could not come to his sports day because of an event for the child in the other home. What should I do?

Explain to your child that his father cannot be in two places at once, not because he matters less. Make sure the father acknowledges the child's disappointment and promises to attend the next event, then keeps that promise. Arrange for a beloved adult, such as his mother, grandfather or uncle, to cheer in the father's place so that the child does not feel alone. Record the event so that the father can watch it and celebrate it with him later. Throughout the year, make sure the father shares his presence at the children's important events in both homes fairly. Praise your child's effort at the event without linking it to his father's absence. See children in polygyny.