🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #141

How do I know when my spouse's jealousy has become dangerous and is not just an ordinary feeling?

Jealousy becomes dangerous when it turns into threats, total control, or anything that makes you afraid. Signs include: being isolated from family and friends, being monitored constantly, being threatened, or feeling you must tread carefully so your spouse does not explode. This is no longer jealous love, but coercive control that can be dangerous. Do not blame yourself and do not wait for it to get worse. If you are in danger, call the police on 999 immediately. Contact Talian Kasih 15999 for advice, support and the options available. Talk to someone you trust, and plan for your safety. See domestic violence.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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