🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #120

My husband seems excited about his plan to marry again, and that deepens my hurt. What should I do?

Having his excitement displayed in front of you is truly painful, and you have the right to tell him so honestly. A wise and careful husband will protect the feelings of his existing wife, not celebrate in front of her. Say calmly: ‘I know this is your decision, but seeing you so excited in front of me hurts me deeply. Please be mindful of my feelings.’ This is a fair request, not complaining. At the same time, guard your heart from magnifying every action of his into an insult. If he remains insensitive even after being told, a counsellor or a respected person can help convey it. Your feelings deserve to be protected in this marriage. See communication & emotions.

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