I like to save but my spouse likes to spend. How do we find a middle ground?

Different attitudes towards money are common in marriage, and they can become a balance if handled with respect, not quarrels. Understand where each attitude comes from; it usually comes from how we were raised. Sit together and agree a budget that makes room both for saving and for moderate enjoyment. Set a small personal spending limit for each of you that needs no discussion, so there is some freedom. Avoid hiding purchases, because openness protects trust. Let shared financial goals be what unites you. With give and take, the saver and the spender complement each other. See family finances.