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I am ready to propose but too shy to tell my own parents. How do I start?

Start by being open about your wish, not by asking them to send a proposal party straight away. Choose a calm time and speak first to whichever parent is easier to approach. For example: ‘Mum, I think I am ready to get married. There is someone I think is suitable, and I want to hear what you think.’ Prepare basic information about the girl and her family, and an outline of your finances. Preparation like this shows you are serious and mature. Parents are usually more open when they are involved from the start, not told after everything has been decided. See preparing to be head of the family.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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