I am more successful in my career than my spouse. How do I keep a balanced heart?

Your success need not threaten your marriage if it is handled with humility and respect. Do not use your achievements as a tool to belittle your spouse or demand special treatment. Appreciate your spouse's contributions, which may not be visible but are just as important. Include them in your success and celebrate it together. Protect their feelings if society looks up to you more, and affirm their role at home. Remember that honour in Allah's sight lies in taqwa, not in rank. Make time to appreciate their efforts and contributions specifically. A balanced heart keeps the relationship from cracking. See rights of husband and wife.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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