Hati saya tidak tenang selepas istikharah. Bolehkah saya putuskan tunang?

Boleh, jika keraguan itu serius dan berterusan, tetapi nilai juga dengan fakta dan nasihat orang yang dipercayai. Istikharah bukan sekadar menunggu perasaan; ulama menjelaskan bahawa Allah memudahkan jalan yang baik dan menjauhkan yang buruk. Rasa resah boleh datang daripada gementar biasa sebelum berkahwin, atau daripada tanda sebenar seperti akhlak yang meragukan. Ulang istikharah, bertanya kepada orang yang mengenali tunang anda (istisyarah), dan bincang dengan ibu bapa. Jika keputusan untuk memutuskan dibuat, lakukan segera dan dengan adab, kerana menangguhkan menambah kerugian kedua-dua pihak. Selesaikan pemulangan hadiah dan belanja secara adil. Lihat khitbah .

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My heart is not at peace after istikharah. May I break off the engagement?

Yes, if the doubt is serious and persistent, but weigh it against the facts and the advice of people you trust.
Istikharah is not merely waiting for a feeling; scholars explain that Allah eases the good path and turns one away from the bad. Unease may come from ordinary nerves before marriage, or from real signs such as questionable character. Repeat the istikharah, ask people who know your fiancé(e) (istisyarah), and discuss with your parents. If the decision to break off is made, do it promptly and courteously, because delay adds to the loss on both sides. Settle the return of gifts and expenses fairly. See khitbah (proposal).

Sumber

Sahih al-Bukhari 1162Act 303, s.15

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