🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #42

How should a man prepare before marrying a second time?

A man must make sure he is able to be just in maintenance, the rotation of nights and housing, and fulfil the legal procedure before taking another wife.
Allah permits polygyny but commands marrying only one if one fears being unable to be just (an-Nisa' 4:3). The Prophet ﷺ warned that a husband who inclines towards one wife will come on the Day of Judgement with one side of his body leaning. Preparation: assess the finances for two households, examine your intention, be frank with the existing wife and listen to her concerns, weigh the effect on the children, and apply for Syariah Court permission (Act 303, s.23). See Conditions, Polygyny in Malaysia and the calculator.

Sources

Surah an-Nisa' 4:3Surah an-Nisa' 4:129narrated by Abu Dawud (sahih)Act 303, s.23

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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