I have apologised but my spouse is still hurt. What makes an apology meaningful?

An apology that heals names clearly what was wrong, without excuses, and is followed by change. ‘Sorry if you feel hurt’ is not an apology; it throws the blame onto your spouse's feelings. Try instead: ‘I was wrong to raise my voice in front of the children. I know that hurt, and I regret it.’ Show that you understand why it hurt, not just that you want the fight to end. Then say what you will change, and keep to it. Give your spouse time to accept it; do not push them to forgive straight away. An honest apology followed by change rebuilds trust little by little. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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