🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #367

We are a couple forced to live in different states because of work. How do we manage it?

A two-state marriage can stay strong with regular planned meetings and a goal of reuniting the household. Set a dependable schedule for coming home, and take turns visiting so that the burden of travel is shared. Make your time together quality time, not spent on postponed arguments. At the same time, discuss the long-term plan: will one of you move, and when. Manage the finances of two locations transparently so that there is no sense of unfairness. Make sure any children understand the situation in a reassuring way. See cross-border families.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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