🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #192

There is an emergency at my co-wife's home while our husband is away. Should I step in to help?

In an emergency, helping is a demand of humanity and brotherhood that overrides all old feelings. If there is danger to life, call the police on 999 or emergency services immediately, then offer whatever help you can. Feelings of jealousy or distance should not stop you from helping when someone truly needs it. Inform your husband as soon as possible and coordinate what is needed. Once things have calmed down, you do not need to force yourself to be close; it is enough not to hurt her. Kindness in a moment of crisis is often remembered for a lifetime. See co-wife relations.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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