🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #245

My husband works far away and we rarely see each other. How can we keep our closeness from afar in the right way?

Distance tests closeness, but the bond can be kept through contact that is frequent, honest and dignified. Set times to connect personally, not just to discuss household matters. Share your feelings and your days so your hearts stay close. Keep to proper limits and dignity in whatever you send, because phones too can be misused. Plan reunions to look forward to and make them meaningful. Pray for each other and entrust yourselves to Allah while apart. If the distance becomes a heavy, prolonged burden, discuss a long-term solution together. Faithfulness and communication are the pillars of a long-distance relationship. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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