I lose patience most easily when I am hungry or tired. How do I keep my manners then?

Recognising that hunger and tiredness shorten your patience is the first step to not taking it out on your spouse. A tired body and an empty stomach make small things feel big. Take care of basic needs first: eat on time, drink enough water, and rest when you can. If you feel your patience wearing thin, tell your spouse honestly: ‘I'm hungry and tired, give me a moment.’ Avoid making decisions or having heavy discussions at such times. Looking after yourself is not an excuse to be harsh, but a way to avoid regret. See everyday adab.

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