🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #89

How do I set realistic expectations of marriage so I am not too disappointed later?

Realistic expectations are the best defence against disappointment: marriage is the effort of two imperfect people, not a fairy tale without challenges. Expect that there will be disagreements, tiredness, and flat moments alongside the happy ones; that is normal, not a sign you chose wrongly. Avoid comparing your relationship with the perfect displays of others on social media. Discuss with your future spouse what each of you expects in the first years. Resolve to grow together, forgive, and improve, rather than expecting your spouse to meet your every need. Sensible expectations make real happiness easier to reach and to appreciate. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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