My husband withholds maintenance every time I do not do what he wants. Is this wrong?

Withholding maintenance (nafkah) to punish or control you is abuse, because maintenance is the husband's duty, not a bargaining tool. Providing food, clothing and shelter for the family remains obligatory even while you are in a dispute. If this situation endangers you or your children, call the police on 999, and contact Talian Kasih 15999 for support. Record the dates and amounts of the maintenance withheld as evidence. Unpaid maintenance can be claimed through the Syariah Court, and the officers there can explain the steps. Also get support from people you trust. See family finances.