I am too shy to talk about intimacy with my own spouse. How do I start?

Talking about intimacy with your own spouse is nothing shameful; it is part of the love and trust between husband and wife. Choose a calm and private time, not when tired or rushed. Start gently and in general terms, for example: ‘I'd like us to be more comfortable and close; can we talk a little?’ Use polite and respectful language, not sarcasm or complaints. Listen to your spouse's needs as you would want to be heard. There is no need to discuss everything at once; one thing at a time is enough. Over time this openness strengthens trust and affection. See intimacy etiquette.