🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #238

My spouse forces me into intimacy even when I refuse, sometimes with threats. What should I do?

Forcing someone with threats and violence is no one's right in marriage; it is an injustice, and your safety comes first. If you are in danger now, call the police on 999 immediately. Also contact Talian Kasih 15999 for confidential support and advice. You are not to blame for this situation, and fearing your spouse is not the married life Allah intends. Tell someone you trust, and seek help from a counsellor or an officer at the religious affairs office. The right to intimacy never justifies coercion or violence. Find a safe place if you need to. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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