I feel guilty about my mistakes in my marriage. How do I forgive myself and keep improving?

Forgive yourself for past mistakes, because constantly tormenting yourself fixes nothing. The door of repentance is always open; do not be the one who shuts it. Admit the mistake, seek forgiveness, and learn the lesson so it does not happen again. Focus your energy on repairing the relationship today, not punishing yourself for yesterday. Apologise to your spouse if needed and carry on with fresh resolve. Prolonged guilt paralyses; true repentance frees. If guilt is swamping your days, talking with a counsellor can help you weigh it more fairly and be gentler with yourself. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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