🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #201

How can we stay affectionate as desire changes with age?

Desire changes with age and health, but affection and love need not stop. Understand each other's bodily changes without blaming or taking offence. Keep up touch, hugs and words of love even as the physical relationship changes form. Talk openly and gently about new needs and comfort. Seek a doctor's advice if a health problem is affecting it. Emotional intimacy becomes more important as you grow older. Make time to be affectionate in ways that are comfortable for both of you. Mature love adapts; it does not give up. See intimacy etiquette.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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