⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #146

Should the prospective wife's family be told from the start that I am already married?

Yes, from the very first step; hiding your status from her wali (guardian) and family is deception in a very serious matter. The wali has the right to decide with complete information. Families who find out later often lose trust, and the relationship between son-in-law and in-laws is tainted from the start. Meet her father or wali face to face. Explain your status, that the application for permission will be or has been filed, and your plans for maintenance and housing. Answer their questions patiently even if some are sharp. Honesty on the first day saves many tears later. See relations with in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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