🌍 Children, inheritance & global · #79

Can I stop my ex-husband from seeing our children because he is late paying maintenance?

A child's right to see his father and the father's duty to provide maintenance (nafkah) are two separate matters, and one must not be used as a weapon against the other. Withholding visits as a punishment actually punishes the child, not your ex-spouse. Child maintenance is an ongoing responsibility and the child's right, not a payment for time together. If your ex-husband fails to pay court-ordered maintenance, the proper channel is enforcement through the Syariah Court, not cutting off the child. Keep records and discuss calmly first. Keep money issues apart from love so the child is not trapped in the middle. See maintenance after divorce.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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