🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #174

My husband has never mentioned wanting polygyny, but my heart still worries. How can I calm it?

Worrying about something that has not happened torments you today without changing the future. Hand over what is beyond your control to Allah through prayer, because hearts find peace in remembering Him. At the same time, build a warm relationship with your husband so that a sense of security grows from the relationship, not from guarantees. If the worry comes from past experience or other people's stories, realise that your marriage is not their story. Share your feelings with your husband once, calmly, and then do not repeat it every day until it wears you both out. If anxiety disturbs your sleep and daily functioning, see a counsellor. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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