Ibu bapa paksa saya kahwin dengan pilihan mereka. Apa hukumnya?

Islam mensyaratkan keredaan bakal pengantin; wanita tidak boleh dikahwinkan tanpa persetujuannya, dan anak tidak berdosa menolak calon dengan cara yang baik. Nabi ﷺ bersabda janda tidak dikahwinkan sehingga diminta pendapatnya dan anak dara sehingga diminta izinnya. Dalam mazhab Syafi'i, bapa atau datuk (wali mujbir) secara teori boleh menikahkan anak dara tanpa izinnya, tetapi dengan syarat-syarat ketat seperti tiada permusuhan dan calon sekufu; ulama tetap menganjurkan meminta izin. Undang-undang keluarga Islam di Malaysia mensyaratkan persetujuan kedua-dua pihak. Jelaskan pendirian anda dengan sopan, beri peluang mengenali calon, dan dapatkan bantuan kaunseling jika tekanan berterusan.

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My parents are forcing me to marry their choice. What is the ruling?

Islam requires the willing consent of the bride and groom; a woman may not be married off without her consent, and a child does not sin by declining a candidate in a good manner.
The Prophet ﷺ said a previously married woman is not to be married until her opinion is sought, and a virgin not until her permission is sought. In the Shafi'i school, a father or grandfather (wali mujbir) may in theory marry off a virgin daughter without her permission, but only under strict conditions such as there being no enmity and the candidate being compatible; scholars still urge that her permission be sought. Islamic family law in Malaysia requires the consent of both parties. Explain your position politely, allow a chance to get to know the candidate, and seek counselling if the pressure continues.

Perbezaan mazhab. Hanafi tidak mengiktiraf ijbar ke atas wanita dewasa; Syafi'i, Maliki dan Hanbali membenarkan ijbar anak dara oleh bapa dengan syarat-syarat tertentu, namun tetap menggalakkan meminta izin.

Sumber

Sahih al-Bukhari 5136Sahih Muslim 1419Surah al-Isra' 17:23

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