Apa hukum memutuskan pertunangan? Berdosakah?

Memutuskan pertunangan dibenarkan kerana ia hanya janji, tetapi makruh jika tanpa sebab yang munasabah. Khitbah bukan akad, jadi kedua-dua pihak berhak menarik diri. Namun Islam sangat menekankan menepati janji; antara tanda munafik ialah "apabila berjanji, dia mengingkari". Oleh itu memutuskan tunang sesuka hati, apatah lagi selepas keluarga sudah membuat persiapan besar, boleh menyakiti hati dan menjejaskan maruah orang. Jika ada sebab yang sah, misalnya akhlak buruk yang baru diketahui, agama yang tidak dijaga, penipuan, penyakit serius yang disembunyikan atau hati benar-benar tidak tenang, maka memutuskan tunang lebih baik daripada memaksa perkahwinan yang tidak bahagia. Lakukannya dengan adab: melalui wakil keluarga, berterus terang, dan selesaikan soal hadiah serta belanja dengan adil.

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💍 Khitbah & pertunangan · #6

What is the ruling on breaking off an engagement? Is it a sin?

Breaking off an engagement is permitted because it is only a promise, but it is disliked (makruh) if done without a reasonable cause.
Khitbah is not a contract, so both parties are entitled to withdraw. But Islam places great emphasis on keeping promises; among the signs of a hypocrite is "when he promises, he breaks it". So breaking off an engagement on a whim, especially after the families have made big preparations, can cause hurt and damage people's dignity. If there is a valid reason, for example bad character newly discovered, religion not observed, deceit, a serious illness that was concealed or a heart that is truly not at peace, then breaking off the engagement is better than forcing an unhappy marriage. Do it with adab: through a family representative, frankly, and settle the matter of gifts and expenses fairly.

Sumber

Sahih al-Bukhari 33Sahih Muslim 59Surah al-Isra' 17:34

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