🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #98

My spouse keeps accusing me of cheating even though I am faithful. How do I convince them?

You should not have to live in an endless trial, but calm and openness are more convincing than anger. Answering accusations with anger often confirms their fears, even when you are in the right. Respond calmly and consistently, and be open within reasonable limits. At the same time, their worry may stem from old wounds or insecurity that needs healing, not from any wrong of yours. Suggest seeing a counsellor together, because persistent, baseless accusations are a problem that needs help. If the accusations turn into suffocating control, get help. You deserve to be trusted. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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