Bakal pasangan ada masa silam yang gelap. Patut ke saya teruskan?

Jika dia telah bertaubat dengan benar dan kini istiqamah, masa silamnya tidak sepatutnya menjadi penghalang; Allah menerima taubat dan menghapuskan dosa. Islam menggalakkan menutup aib yang telah ditinggalkan; seseorang tidak wajib mendedahkan dosa lampau yang telah Allah tutup, dan Nabi ﷺ mencela mereka yang menghebahkan dosa sendiri. Nilailah keadaannya sekarang: solat, kejujuran, pergaulan, dan bukti perubahan. Jika masa silam itu masih memberi kesan semasa — seperti hutang, ketagihan, penyakit berjangkit atau tanggungan anak — ia perlu dibincang secara jujur. Ayat an-Nur 24:3 difahami oleh ramai ulama sebagai merujuk kepada penzina yang belum bertaubat. Beristikharah dan dapatkan nasihat orang berilmu.

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My future spouse has a dark past. Should I go ahead?

If they have truly repented and are now steadfast, their past should not be an obstacle; Allah accepts repentance and erases sins.
Islam encourages concealing faults that have been left behind; a person is not obliged to disclose past sins that Allah has concealed, and the Prophet ﷺ censured those who publicise their own sins. Assess their present state: prayer, honesty, the company they keep, and evidence of change. If the past still has present consequences — such as debts, addiction, an infectious disease or dependent children — it must be discussed honestly. The verse an-Nur 24:3 is understood by many scholars to refer to fornicators who have not repented. Pray istikharah and seek advice from people of knowledge.

Sumber

Surah az-Zumar 39:53Sahih al-Bukhari 6069Sahih Muslim 2990Surah an-Nur 24:3

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