🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #185

My stepchild told me he is often badly beaten and lives in fear at his mother's home. What should I do?

The child's safety comes before everything; if he is in danger now, act immediately. Listen to his story calmly, believe him, and do not leave him alone in his fear. If the child is in danger, call the police on 999 immediately. For advice and support, contact Talian Kasih on 15999, who can guide the next steps. Tell your husband and keep a record of the dates and what the child told you. Do not stay silent or tell the child to put up with a situation that is injuring him. Welfare officers and the authorities can protect the child and assess the situation in both homes fairly. See family safety help.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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