🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #133

My teenager feels inferior about her looks and body. How can I help her?

Take her worries seriously, because feeling inferior about appearance is very real for teenagers. Avoid teasing her or comparing her with other people's children, even in jest. Remind her that a person's worth lies in faith and character, not appearance. Allah says: “And do not covet that in which Allah has favoured some of you over others” (Surah an-Nisa' 4:32). Praise her effort and kindness, not just her appearance. Limit social media time, which often feeds comparison. If her sadness persists, get help from a counsellor. Guidance on supporting your child is at educating the family.

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Surah an-Nisa' 4:32

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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