🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #135

My child says she wants to be in a ‘couple’ because all her friends are. How do I answer?

Respect her feelings first and answer calmly, because peer pressure at this age is very strong. Do not immediately scold or mock; instead ask what she finds appealing about it. Explain that following the crowd is not the measure of right or wrong, and that being paired off without commitment often brings heartbreak and sin. Offer something better: righteous friends, personal goals, and the intention to marry when she is ready. Help her have the confidence to be different. Keep being the listener she trusts. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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