🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #98

My child has quarrelled with or feels left out by friends at school. How do I help?

Listen to the whole story first without rushing to blame anyone, so that he feels supported. Ask what happened and how he feels, then help him think of ways to solve it himself, rather than you taking over. Teach him to forgive and start afresh, but also to protect himself from friends who hurt him. Explain what a good friend is like: honest, helpful and encouraging towards good. If the problem continues or involves bullying, contact the school. Pray for him and assure him that home is always a place where he is accepted. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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