Friends tease me because I 'only' have one wife. How should I respond?

The number of wives is not a measure of manhood or faith, so do not let other people's jokes shake your decision. Many believing men throughout history lived happily with one wife, and caring for one household justly is already a great responsibility. Respond to teasing calmly or with a light joke, without needing to defend yourself at length. There is no need to make life decisions under peer pressure; they will not bear the consequences. Focus on making your wife happy and raising your children well. A strong man is one who looks after the trust in his hands, not one who adds more to show off. See course for husbands.

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