What should I ask before agreeing to become a second wife?

Ask about the things that determine fairness to you and your safety: finances, the rotation, housing, the first wife's knowledge and the status of the court application. Important questions include: What are his income and existing commitments? Where will I live? How will the rotation be arranged? Does the first wife know? Has the application for polygyny permission been made? What about the children? Involve your wali and family, and ask for proof, not promises. If the man is evasive or suggests a secret marriage or one abroad without permission, that is a serious warning sign. See prospective second wife, two-household finances and polygyny in Malaysia.