🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #308

After a festive wedding, the house suddenly feels quiet and I feel let down. Is that normal?

Feeling let down once the excitement of the wedding has died down is a common feeling, not a sign that you made a mistake in marrying. For months your attention was poured into the wedding, and when it is over, calm daily life feels flat for a while. Accept this feeling without panicking, and do not compare your real life with the beautiful displays on social media. Start building new closeness: plan small things to look forward to together, such as a weekend breakfast or an evening walk. Talk with your spouse about this feeling so you go through it together. The excitement of one day's celebration is replaced by a tranquillity that grows slowly over a lifetime. See guide to starting married life.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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