🕌 Worship in the home · #161

This is our first Ramadan as husband and wife. What should we plan together?

Plan three things: your worship goals, the division of work, and the schedule with both families. The first Ramadan often reveals different habits; one may be used to a late sahur, the other used to praying tarawih at the mosque. Talk it through before Ramadan starts so the differences do not come as a surprise. Set one realistic shared goal, such as reading one page of the Qur'an together after Subuh. Also learn the basic rulings together, including the limits on marital intimacy during the day and the obligatory bath (mandi wajib) before Subuh. Plan iftar with both families fairly. On the eve of Aidilfitri, celebrate your small successes together. See Ramadan as a family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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