I am so busy caring for my frail parents that I am neglecting my own health and household. What should I do?

You cannot pour from an empty vessel; looking after yourself is a condition for being able to keep caring for others. Guilt often drives carers to push themselves until they collapse, and then the care suffers and the marriage grows distant. Schedule your own rest and health check-ups as you schedule your parents'. Ask for help: share tasks with your siblings, hire help if you can afford it, or use day-care services. Make time for your spouse so the relationship is not neglected. Tell your family when you are exhausted, before it becomes depression. Looking after yourself is not selfishness, but a responsibility. See mental health.