How do we end a small argument well so that no one holds a grudge?

The aim of an argument in marriage is understanding, not winning, so end it with peace, not victory. When voices start to rise, one of you should lower the tone first; that is not losing, it is wisdom. Focus on one issue and avoid bringing up old matters. Once things settle, admit your part: ‘I was wrong too just now.’ A brief touch or a hug repairs the bond faster than words. If the issue is not fully settled, agree to continue later, calmly. What matters is not letting a small win damage a big relationship. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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