⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #31

My new wife is a divorcee, but she asks for seven nights. Is that allowed?

It is allowed, but if the previously married wife chooses seven nights, the husband must also make up seven nights to each of the other wives; her original right of three nights without make-up is then forfeited.
When the Prophet ﷺ married Umm Salamah r.a., he stayed with her three nights and then offered: if you wish, I will stay seven nights with you, but I will also stay seven nights with my other wives (Sahih Muslim). This gives the new wife a choice while protecting the rights of the other wives. So the husband should explain this choice kindly. See Fiqh of polygyny.

Sources

Sahih Muslim — hadith of Umm SalamahSahih al-Bukhari 5213

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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