🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #143

I am a second wife living far from my husband and we rarely meet. How do we keep the relationship alive?

Distance demands more conscious effort, but the relationship can still be warm if both sides make the effort. Set regular times to be in touch, rather than just waiting for your husband to be free, so you have something to look forward to. Share small daily things through calls or messages so you remain part of his life. Also discuss a fair visiting schedule and your rights to maintenance (nafkah) and the rota (turn of nights), because distance does not cancel those rights. Fill your time alone with worship, knowledge and healthy social connections. If the distance leaves your rights neglected for a long time, talk with your husband, and refer to the religious affairs office if needed. See relationships between co-wives.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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