After years together, we have become so familiar that we are less careful about respect. What can we do?

Closeness that becomes too casual can sometimes wear away good manners; bring back respect by watching how you speak to and treat each other. Avoid using a harsh tone or rude orders just because you have been together a long time. Bring ‘please’, ‘thank you’ and ‘sorry’ back into daily conversation. Keep up your appearance and manners as you would in front of guests. Respect your spouse's time, space and opinions. Start by improving one speech habit that has become too harsh. Closeness with respect is sweeter than familiarity that crosses lines. See communication & emotions.