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🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #125

I always rescue my teenager from every mistake. Should I let him get things wrong?

Letting a child bear the consequences of small mistakes is part of raising him to be an adult. When you erase every error, he gets no chance to learn to make decisions and live with their effects. Choose mistakes that are safe to allow, such as forgetting to bring a book, running late, or spending pocket money unwisely. Let natural consequences teach him, and resist the urge to rescue him or say ‘I told you so’. Afterwards, help him think by asking what he learned and what he will do differently next time. Save your intervention for real danger only. Freedom given little by little produces teenagers who are confident and responsible. More in educating the family.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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