We divorced after decades of marriage. How do I adjust at this age?

Divorce in the golden years brings layered losses, so give yourself time and rebuild your life little by little. You lose not only a spouse, but also routines, roles and perhaps a home you lived in for years. Start with practical matters: make sure your rights such as mut'ah and jointly acquired property (harta sepencarian) are fully claimed. Check your health, retirement finances and housing. Then fill your days with meaningful things, such as religious classes, mosque activities, grandchildren or a new skill. Your adult children also need time to accept it, so do not ask them to take sides. Read more on the single mother support page.