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🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #77

Should the division of housework be discussed before marriage?

Yes, expectations about who handles what at home should be discussed early, because they are the most frequent cause of daily quarrels. Many couples enter marriage with different pictures from their own homes, and are surprised when their spouse does not think the same. Discuss daily habits: cooking, tidying, shopping, and how these change when both work or when children come. Remember, a husband who helps at home is reviving a sunnah, not lowering himself. There is no need for a rigid schedule; what matters is a spirit of cooperation, not keeping score. Early understanding makes the home feel fair. See responsibilities of husband and wife.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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