If I (a widow) remarry, do I lose custody of my children?

According to the hadith, the mother is entitled to custody of the child "as long as she has not remarried". So in the Shafi'i school, the mother's right of custody (hadhanah) may lapse when she marries a man who is not mahram or a close relative of the child, and the right passes to the maternal grandmother and so on. But if the new husband is a relative of the child (for example an uncle), the right does not lapse. In Malaysia, the Syariah Court still weighs the child's welfare, and remarriage does not necessarily lead to the child being moved if that would cause harm. If the child is an orphan, a paternal uncle or grandfather may apply. Discuss and settle it amicably. See custody (hadhanah).